So I started reading The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman (New York Times Bestseller) because I thought I had nothing to lose, if anything it would help CJ and I to communicate to each other better...especially since we have to deal with a long distance relationship half of the year. From what I've read so far it is legitimate advice...It's an easy read and it is definitely informative. The concept of the book really makes sense - OK, you and your partner can't seem to get on the same page, you don't know what you are doing wrong. You realize that maybe you two speak a different "love language". And in order to have the most healthy relationship you can, you must find out how to SPEAK the language that your partner speaks and vice versa. It doesn't sound too far-fetched, actually it made a lot of sense to me when I just read the back of the book....hence the reason for me buying it. So anyways, the first thing I did before I started reading it was I took the quiz in the back of the book to see what "language" I spoke, and I made CJ take it to see what "language" he speaks. (I'll post the quiz here, but only if you promise to read the book :) because I mean think about it, now you know your love language and your partner's...you should figure out how to better your relationship with this new found knowledge.) So when I took the quiz I found out that, unfortunately, I speak the language of physical touch . CJ took it and he was a tie. He is words of affirmation (I kinda knew that already :) ) and physical touch. We WOULD both be physical touch just to make it difficult on us haha....think about it, we are in a long distance relationship, Physical touch is really the only love language that seems impossible to achieve with our situation lol. Of course we can't have it simple and both be, sayyyy, receiving gifts because that would just be too easy haha (in a long distance relationship I mean). But we will work with what we've been handed :) Love ain't easy!! So anyways, here's the link for an example of the quiz you will take in the back of the book...
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